Why am I feeling so out-of-the-loop lately?
It's a strange thing. I have always been introverted, although I do enjoy the company of a select few people. I've been happy with that. And, I enjoy interacting with people on social media. A lot of my introvert nature melts away online. But just try to call me (one reader did, many years ago) and you will see a woman in her 60's in panic mode. (No, she wasn't stalking me - rather, I had posed a health question, and she was just trying to be helpful. But I wasn't ready for it. Fortunately, I wasn't home, my answering machine picked it up, and I never did call her back).
I don't feel lonely that much. In fact, I crave, and need, time to myself. Fortunately, I have an understanding spouse. But about that out of the loop feeling:
A photo is what started it off.
People at work were talking about a photo a co worker had taken. It was quite a photo (dare I say "epic"?), and he had posted it on Facebook. That's where my co workers saw it. Lots of co workers saw it. Turns out that there is a whole world of my co workers interacting on Facebook with each other in their personal time. I'll mention here that we are not permitted access to Facebook (or any social media other than LinkedIn) on our work computers, so this is all on our own time.
I've maintained a policy of not friending co workers on Facebook. OK, I have one co worker friend on Facebook, but we've been friends outside of work for years. I've heard of bad stuff happening when you friend co-workers on social media. It happened at my spouse's job (not him personally, because he isn't even active on Facebook) where some co workers/Facebook friends ended up in a fight about something work related that got back to management, and someone ended up getting fired.
But back to that photo. For the first time in a long time, I felt out of the loop, like I was missing out on something. I actually felt lonely, especially after someone took pity on me, whipped out their phone, opened Facebook and showed me the photo.
So that's how I found out just how many people at work were interacting with each other. And I was totally out of that loop.
I'm not native to this area, and it could be these people went to high school with each other, or had each other as neighbors, or are even related to each other (and we do have siblings and in laws working there). But maybe there is no outside work connection outside of Facebook. I have no idea.
For the first time, I'm questioning my policy. Mind you, no co worker has invited me to be their friend, which is just as well, because then I would have to face this question head on. Also I interact with some of them on LinkedIn, but that is something totally different.
So I am going to ask my readers this question today. Have you friended co workers on Facebook? If so, has it been a good experience or not so good?
I'm just curious.
My gut still says "don't do it" but if I do get an invite, I don't know what I would do. And perhaps that is my real, unspoken, question.