Wednesday, November 19, 2025

The First Friendsgiving? #WordlessWednesday

Far from wordless, but I wanted to get this in before the American Thanksgiving (November 27 this year).

A while back, in 2015, and again in 2017 and 2018, I shared the below young adult memory, when my spouse was in the Air Force. We were spending our first military Thanksgiving, together with other people serving, away from home.  

At that time, I couldn't find the recipe for my Memory Pie, which is a soybean pie (no, really, please keep reading) that tastes like a pumpkin pie.

But, thanks to a decluttering project several years ago, I found the recipe.  

So what happened when I found the recipe?

I offered to make it, but my spouse took one look at the recipe, and said "no". When we went to our local supermarket, I couldn't even find dried soybeans.  So I am not going to bake a pie for you.

I will leave you, instead, with a link to the recipe, which is available online.

But I will not leave you with the pie.  I will leave you a memory of what we called "having friends over since we were thousands of miles from home."  In modern times, it may have been called a Friendsgiving.  I doubt this was the first Friendsgiving, but the title sounds good.

It was the mid 1970's and we were over a thousand miles from home.  It was my spouse's first Thanksgiving in the military.  He was undergoing technical training in Texas.  And he had friends in his class, all of whom were far away from home, too.

For the most part we were in our late teens or early 20's, but among us was a slightly older man.  Sgt W. was from Iowa and he was a soybean farmer.  As I recall, he had joined the National Guard and was training with my spouse's Air Force class.

Sgt W. had never eaten a soybean.  He had never sampled the crop he grew.

In the mid 1970's, soybeans weren't common the way they are today.  But I had become an on and off vegetarian in college, and I had fallen in love with a couple of books - Diet for a Small Planet and Recipes for a Small Planet.  As I wasn't working at the time, and my spouse was making the tiny salary of an airman, money was tight and we used the methods explained in this book to stay healthy.  We ate whole grain homemade breads, bean and rice casseroles, and even dishes made with the healthy soybean.

In one of these books was a recipe for a mock pumpkin pie made with pureed soybeans, pumpkin pie spice and other ingredients I can't remember (nor could I find the recipe in a long Internet search last night). 

My spouse invited several of his classmate friends, including Sgt W., to Thanksgiving dinner.  And, an idea hatched in my mind.  Why not make something with soybeans for him?

We had a turkey, and other items no longer remembered.  It was one of the happiest Thanksgivings I remember, because we were all away from home but not lonely, and I remember our companionship much more than I remember the food.

Except for one food.  

When I served my "pumpkin pie", Sgt W. dug in, and said he liked it.  So did everyone else.  I even liked it, and I don't like pumpkin pie.

So I admitted to him that his "pumpkin pie" was really soybean pie.  And he didn't seem to mind.

I wonder what he said when he returned home to Iowa when his class was over.  We never saw him again after that.

I don't know where Sgt W. lives today, or if he is even alive.  Sadly, I  know at least one of the young men at that dinner passed several years ago.  So I don't know if W. remembers the young woman he had Thanksgiving with, in an apartment near an Air Force base in Texas in the mid 1970's, and the soybean pie she served him.

If you are out there, Sgt. W, Happy Thanksgiving next Thursday to you and your family.

Joining Sandee at Comedy Plus for her #WordlessWednesday. 

 

6 comments:

  1. ...I wonder what Thanksgiving will be like for our grandson, an Army Medic in the middle east?

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  2. Wouldn't it be amazing if Sgt. W. read this and made contact?

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  3. Hopped over from Tom's blog! I really enjoyed your memory of your dinner. I had that cookbook too, and o e called Recipes for a Small Planet that I used until it fell apart, back when we were vegetarians in the 70s. I never tried the soybean pie but I bet it was good. All those recipes were delicious.

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  4. What a loving memory for you and I hope the Sgt sees this post ~ hugs,

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  5. Thank you for sharing this memory with us. I like pumpkin, but I am
    lazy in doing sweets. I'll take from the market pumpkin, just to make something new in the kitchen...
    Happy WW, Alana. A fine week.😘💖

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