Sunday, August 16, 2015

The End and the Beginning

A chapter has closed.  Another one is ready to be written.

I stare at the blank pages of today, ready to be written on.

My mother in law and developmentally disabled brother in law now (as of yesterday) live about two miles from us.  We, and my sister in law and her significant other, with help from several family members (you know who you are, and I thank you once again) survived the downsizing and moving process.  My mother in law and the brother in law I call "B" have arrived, and spent the first night in their new home last night.

I can not put myself into the heads of my mother in law or brother in law.  My brother in law has autism, and this process has been hard for him, perhaps harder than for any of us.  He just doesn't show it in the same way.

My mother in law is still recovering from heart valve replacement surgery.  She is trying to gain strength and health back.  It is a battle, at her age.

We all have a lot of adjusting to do. Mother in law and "B" must adjust to a new area, a new home, and apartment living.

We must adjust to them being two miles away and not 150.

It will be a "process".

Now the REAL work begins.  We all have to take it one day, maybe one hour, at a time.

Wish us all luck.  We are all going to need it.


  1. Hello Alana, as you jot down this, am sure, several ideas would spring up in your mind to make this "Process" a success.

    All the best wishes to you. I really appreciate you doing your duty without any qualms. Not everyone does that.

  2. I'm with you in your heroic effort. You give a fine example of how we should all behave toward our family. Fingers crossed for you, Alana. I'm sending you an extra dose of strength.

  3. Hey Alana- I hope that things will improve for you.

  4. But 2 hours away should make some things much easier. No more constant travelling. That's great. Good luck.

  5. As in home care giver I feel I might offer some friendly advice....Your family is so lucky that all our willing to pitch in.
    But a word to every future health. Don't be afraid to bring in help from the out side. I seen to many family try to weather the stress of taking care of a family and put them self in the grave.

    Coffee is on

  6. Supporting family is something that's very unique to humans and I am glad you are with yours in this time of need. Things will get better as you settled down with the change. All the best and know that we are with you virtually.

  7. I wish you and your loved ones all the best in this transition time.

  8. Good luck. I'm sure you'll manage better than you imagine

  9. Change is never easy, everyone has to adjust, as this new change causes a domino effect.


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