Tuesday, January 15, 2019

Garden Bloggers Bloom Day January 2019

Welcome to the 15th of January.  It's time for Garden Bloggers Bloom Day.

Where I live in upstate New York, winter couldn't make up its mind if it wanted to come or not.  Snow,  warm, rain, snow, repeat.  But winter has closed in.

I don't have much blooming in my house. This African violet, which I purchased in early December, is still going strong.

Who knows if this primrose will make it to spring?

My reliable Thanksgiving cactus still blooming.
And finally, my geraniums struggle, but gave me one bloom.

It's bitterly cold today where I live in zone 5b near Binghamton, New York but we can still have our flowers.

Join Carol at May Dreams Gardens and other bloggers the 15th of each month for Garden Bloggers Bloom Day.  What's blooming in your house or yard?

P.S. Today is the 100th anniversary of Boston's Great Molasses Flood.  More on that tomorrow.

Day 15 of the Ultimate Blog Challenge #blogboost

Monday, January 14, 2019

Flowers #MusicMovesMe # blogboost

Welcome! It's Monday and time for another episode of Music Moves Me. And today, being a "Your Song Pick" week, I've decided to be inspired by - a parade!

Who are the #MusicMovesMe bloggers? We are bloggers who blog about music each Monday and if you have music to share with us, you are most welcome to join! (Music Posts Only on this music train, please!)   First, there is XmasDolly,   Her co-conductors are:  ♥Callie of JAmerican Spice♥,  and ♥Stacy of Stacy Uncorked♥   Also, co-conducting  is  ♥Cathy from Curious as a Cathy♥ .  And finally, there's me. 

> Every January 1 (except when it falls on a Sunday) the Tournament of Roses parade is held in Pasadena, California.  And wouldn't you know it - their theme this year was "The Melody of Life".

I'd like to bring you a little flavor of that parade. But first, some music.


Live performance of The Cowsills and The Rain, the Park, and Other Things.

Talking Heads - [Nothing But] Flowers.

Flowers on the Wall - Statler Brothers

You Don't Bring Me Flowers - a duet with Barbra Streisand and Neil Diamond.

I took these pictures from my TV of the Rose Parade - one day I will get to see this parade in person but not this year.  First, Far Out Frequencies.

How about this Hep Cat?
The Power of Music.

Finally, check out those drums.  Keep in mind, when you view these floats, that the entire float and its contents must be covered in all natural materials - flowers, seeds, bark, spices, or something similar.

Join me again next Monday for another #MusicMovesMe, and while you are at it, why don't you check out other participants in this blog hop?

Day 14 of the Ultimate Blog Challenge #blogboost

Sunday, January 13, 2019

Hard Times in Johnson City New York #blogboost

For this day 13 of the Ultimate Blog Challenge, let me tell you a little bit about the community in upstate New York I live near.

Johnson City was known at one time as the Home of the Square Deal, thanks to George F. Johnson and the Johnson family of Endicott-Johnson shoes.  But that was then and this is now.

Many of those shoe factories have been torn down.  The ones left are in ruins, inhabited by derelicts.  Downtown Johnson City, to be blunt, is depressed.  It may be slowly making its way back from ruin but it is not a place I would recommend to any out of town visitors.  I hope one day that will be different.

George F. Johnson would not have been happy.

Ironic that in 2009 I blogged about the possible dissolution of Johnson City.  The voters voted that November, and Johnson City remained in existence.

But now, Johnson City has appeared on a list of the 10 most dangerous cities in the state of New York.

I have met so many people who have lost jobs in the last year, or are in danger of losing jobs.  Just one example:  I know the mother of someone whose husband is currently looking for work.  Her daughter is a housewife with three children, the fourth one on the way.  It's not a good situation, to put it mildly.

Others try to cobble together part time jobs while going back to school.

And now, our mall, which has lost three of its four anchor stores in the past three years, wants its taxes reduced dramatically.  Who will take up the slack if they win?

We, the residents, will take up that slack.

These are not happy times for many.

Can Johnson City be saved?  Once again, the future is uncertain. And while I try to keep my optimism up, I have to admit that it is hard, sometimes, to keep the faith.

Recently, the State University of New York opened a pharmacy school in part of that depressed area.  We can only hope that will spark a revival.

Saturday, January 12, 2019

Realizing How Fortunate I Am

In the past couple of weeks, I've had occasions where I have felt sorry for myself.

But, I am really one of the luckiest people on the face of the earth.  I get to view beautiful sunrises like this one from earlier in the week.  I sometimes get to travel.

Five days a week, I have the opportunity to get up, eat breakfast, and go to work. Then, in the late afternoon, I get to go home. 

On the other hand, not everyone has that privilege.

Yesterday, my spouse and I made a trip, probably to say goodbye to a relative.  She's younger than I, and has cancer.  Her prognosis is poor.  She knew we were there, but was too tired/sleepy to interact with us.  She is unable to get out of bed on her own. 

I want to use the time I have left, whether years or months, wisely.  I need to devote more thought to that than I have recently.

I need to remember how grateful I am for life.

Day 12 of the Ultimate Blog Challenge #blogboost

Friday, January 11, 2019

January Fire #SkywatchFriday #blogboost

From January 4, a beautiful sunset outside of Binghamton, New York.

There is just something so magical about some January sunrises and sunsets - see the sunset reflected in the house windows on the lower middle?

But the best is yet to come.

Oh yes.  I could get lost in this.

Join Yogi and other bloggers who watch the sky on #SkywatchFriday. 

The Brooklyn photos I promised last week?  I am delaying them another week.  I couldn't resist sharing this sunset with you!

Day 11 of the Ultimate Blog Challenge #blogboost

Thursday, January 10, 2019

Winter Trees #ThursdayTreeLove #blogboost

Some of those who participate in #ThursdayTreeLove are from India or other warmer climes than the one I live in, and I sometimes feel I will disappoint if I don't grab a picture of trees and snow on winter Thursdays.

We haven't had much snow, though!  One major snow, which caused havoc - but since then, not much.

But on the last Saturday of December, I awoke to some light snow flurries.  We got what we call a dusting.

And this was the result.  You can even see some fall color remnants on the three to the left.

Although this isn't a tree, I thought you would also like to see some snow close up on my rhododendron. This plant stays green year round, but takes our harsh winters well.  The buds will open into lovely flowers come late May.

Winter is striking where I live, today - January will not be denied, and this morning ice and snow have struck, along with wind.  Not a good day to go out in!

I am, once again, joining Parul and other bloggers who love trees at #ThursdayTreeLove.  Why not join us every second and fourth Thursday of the month?  Trees make me happy - do they make you happy?

See you next time!

Day 10 of the Ultimate Blog Challenge #blogboost

Wednesday, January 9, 2019

It's Delurking Time!

Are you a blog lurker?  I am, at times.  I admit it.  How about you?

What is a lurker? You like a blog, and you may even read it regularly, but you rarely (or ever) comment.


Maybe you want to admire the blog post from afar. You feel you have nothing to add to the discussion.  I can feel that way.

Maybe you've taken a vow of Internet silence.  Maybe you are shy.  I understand. I'm shy, too.

This week, the blogging community asks you to break your silence.    It's International Blog Delurking Week and it lasts until January 13.

This year, a blog I like to read (Happiness and Food), has taken over from the originator of this meme, Melissa Ford of Stirrup Queens.


The badge?  Go to Happiness and Food, get it and comment there, too.

Parul, the blogger at Happiness and Food, won't bite. She loves trees. In fact, I can tell you she loves trees, because the second and fourth Friday of the month, she hosts a meme called Thursday Tree Love.  In fact, if you love trees, I invite you to come back to Happiness and Food tomorrow with your tree loving post.

I don't bite, either (unless you are made out of chocolate).  I'd love to see you comment.

You can just comment below, where it says "Post a Comment", and say "I'm here!" (unless, of course, you're a spammer.  If you are, go away.)

I know, Blogger blogs can be difficult to comment on.  But, at least today, won't you try?

You can tell me where you live.  You can ask me questions.  You can suggest topics you would like me to blog about.  You can talk about the weather, food, or chocolate.  You can follow me on Twitter or Pinterest (see right sidebar), too.

I am honored by everyone who comes by to read my posts.  Thank you, if you have commented before.  And thank you for commenting today, if this post moves you. (And thank you if you have delurked on your own!)

Commenting to bloggers is like chocolate for many of us.

I look forward to hearing from you today, but, most of all, if there are other blogs you like where you won't you comment on them today, too?  A new blogger, especially, gives up if he or she blogs in silence.  Won't you make a blogger's day today and comment?

Day nine of the Ultimate Blog Challenge #blogboost.

Tuesday, January 8, 2019

A Dying Breed

Do you ever think your life has turned into a museum exhibit?

On December 23-26 my spouse, son and I spent time in Brooklyn, one of the boroughs of New York City.  I have never lived in Brooklyn (I was born in Queens and grew up in The Bronx, two other boroughs), but my father was a native of Brooklyn and I still have some family there.

What I was doing in Brooklyn during Christmastime is a long story.  I am debating whether to tell it now, or wait for the Blogging from A to Z Challenge.

For now, I am going to tease you with this picture taken at Coney Island.  I took this picture on Christmas Eve.  It's a picture of a dying breed.

The pay phone.  Perhaps almost the last of a dying breed.  Years ago, they were everywhere.

Now, they aren't.  More often or not I'll find the housing but not the phone.  These had phones.  And, wonder of wonders:  These actually worked.

I was unable to find out how many pay phones are left in Brooklyn, but I have to think "not too many".

Pay phones were a staple of my childhood, growing up in the 50's and 60's.  In those days, we had phone booths where you could take refuge from the weather, and where Superman could change into his superhero clothes. 

Now, so many of us have cell phones, I'm surprised there are any pay phones left at all.

When is the last time you used a pay phone?  For me, it's so long ago I can't even remember.


Day 8 of the Ultimate Blog Challenge #blogboost.

Monday, January 7, 2019

1969 - #MusicMovesMe #Blogboost

Welcome! It's Monday and time for another episode of Music Moves Me.  And it's also the first Music Moves Me for 2019.  As our head, Xmas Dolly, would say:  Applause!!

Who are the #MusicMovesMe bloggers? We are bloggers who blog about music each Monday and if you have music to share with us, you are most welcome to join! (Music Posts Only on this music train, please!)   First, there is XmasDolly,   Her co-conductors are:  ♥Callie of JAmerican Spice♥,  and ♥Stacy of Stacy Uncorked♥   Also, co-conducting  is  ♥Cathy from Curious as a Cathy♥ .  And finally, there's me. 

The person setting the themes for January has elected to remain anonymous, so there is no one to credit - or blame! (ONLY KIDDING).  The theme for today has to do with Elvis, whose birthday would have been tomorrow.  So, we are invited to start with an Elvis tune, but then switch to other tunes of his era.

And his era was a long one indeed.  When my son, who is now in his late 20's, was growing up, our neighbor across the street had a son a year older than our son. And that young man loved Elvis.  Elvis transcends generation gaps - his music spanned three decades, and is still enjoyed today.

Which is why I am going to start with my favorite Elvis song.  No, it's not from the 50's, or even from the 1960's.  Rather, it is from 1969.

Please enjoy Elvis singing "Suspicious Minds".

In 1969, Elvis also came out with "In the Ghetto". This live version dates from the early 1970's.

In general, 1969 was (in my humble opinion) a fantastic year for music, and it's so hard for me to believe that 50 years have now passed since these songs were hits.

But first, a small tribute to Daryl Dragon, better known as the "Captain" of the Captain and Tennille, who died earlier this week at the age of 76 from renal failure.  Toni Tennille, his ex-wife, was by his side.

They weren't together in 1969 - oh how I wish they had been.  Instead, I will offer a song from 1976 - Muskrat Love.

So, back to 1969 and songs from that year:  I'll just pick two.  The first one, from the Fifth Dimension, Aquarius/Let the Sun Shine In.

And, Creedence Clearwater Revival, Fortunate Son.

Join me again next week for another edition of #MusicMovesMe.

Day seven of the Ultimate Blog Challenge #blogboost.

Sunday, January 6, 2019

A Case of the January Greens

No, I'm not talking leftover Christmas trees.

Every year, it seems we are having a stranger and stranger January. (And February.  And March....)

I thought winter had come on Black Friday, when we got down to four above zero F (-15.5 C).  Or that we had a large snowstorm.

Then we had one of the most cloudy stretches I can remember.  However, on Friday and Saturday, the sun actually came out and I got to remember what the sun looks like.
Never used to be like this on January 5 near Binghamton, New York
This is what things looked like yesterday where I sometimes exercise walk.  Yes, that's green grass.  And sunshine.

Today, we are having strong winds and blowing snow (which isn't sticking).  At least the temperature is above freezing.

Yes, it could be worse.  Just about a year ago, we went down to -2 F (-19 C).  Thank heavens that wasn't today.

And we had ice sculptures in downtown Binghamton.  Not this year, though.

The snow will come soon enough - I hope, though, that it doesn't come in April, like last year.

I remember when we started having this kind of weather about six years ago.  Before that, it was a given that snow covered our ground from November through March with little break. You knew February, in particular, would be brutal.  Now, things are all over the place. Warm in January.  Snow in April.  That kind of thing.

Even the clouds look different.

Does the weather ever frighten you?

Day six of the Ultimate Blog Challenge #blogboost.

Saturday, January 5, 2019

Local Saturday - Charity Begins with Crochet

This morning, I read a fellow blogger's post on her 365 day crochet project for charity.

That struck a chord in me.  I've crocheted for nearly 50 years.  I'm mostly self taught.

I've done a little bit of crocheting for charity on and off during my life - I must admit, a lot more of it was "off" than "on".

But I could do something about that.  

I was starting work on a lap blanket for my mother in law.  I worked on it during a short vacation I was able to take in September.  Alas, when the vacation ended, so did my work on it.

My mother in law, as my regular readers know, passed away the day after Thanksgiving.  I've worked on the blanket, a little here and there, including on my recent travels to Brooklyn.  It's thick, and soft, as I hope you can see from the picture.(I included the hook for a little scale).

I think she would be very happy to see it donated to someone. 

And actually, I know three people right now who are battling cancer.   I know someone else whose spouse has serious heart issues, being treated at the University of Rochester in New York State.

There is so much need out there.

Charity can begin with crochet.  I don't know how many people in this country crochet items for vets, for people battling cancer, for the homeless, and for other causes.  It must number in the thousands.  My late childhood best friend crocheted her way through her cancer and her spouse's, before she was no longer able to, also for charity.

Can I do less?

It's time for me to shed some grief and get back in the game.  I'll share what happens with this blanket with you, my dear reader, which will make me accountable.  I'm sure my closet, which has too many works in progress (WIPS), will thank me, too.

And I'll wish Alice, the blogger in another part of New York State, the best of luck with her decision to crochet a square a day so she can donate crochet for the comfort of cancer patients.

Day five of the Ultimate Blog Challenge #blogboost


Friday, January 4, 2019

Skylines #SkywatchFriday #blogboost

I was fortunate enough to be able to spend Christmas Eve and Christmas day in Brooklyn, part of New York City.  Parts of Brooklyn offer a wonderful view of the Manhattan skyline.

These pictures were taken from the Brooklyn Heights Promenade and (possibly, not sure) Brooklyn Bridge Park on December 25.

What a wonderful way to spend an early winter morning.  No snow!  Sunshine!

My son helped me take this panorama with my iPhone SE.  I love how it stretched the clouds.  The Brooklyn Bridge (on the right) adds even more beauty to the picture, from far away.
A more "common" view of some docks.

I loved seeing the blue sky, coming from upstate New York where it has rarely shone since October.
Another view of the  iconic Brooklyn Bridge in the distance.  You can also see (just about in the middle, in the distance) the Empire State Building.

Next week, I hope to show you some more parts of Brooklyn.

Join Yogi and the bloggers who watch the sky at #SkywatchFriday.

Day four of the Ultimate Blog Challenge #blogboost

Thursday, January 3, 2019

Do You Fear Falling?

As much as the Stepping On program falls prevention program I participated in during 2015 taught me, there is something that they never touched on.  Not directly, anyway.  My guess is, it isn't part of the official curriculum they must follow.  I think falling education has to face something head-on.

That issue is fear.

Fear of falling.

At one of the first classes I took, the two instructors asked us "How many of you don't go out during the winter unless you absolutely have to?"  More than half raised their hands.  In upstate New York, winters are cold and harsh, with lots of ice and snow.  We can get over 100 inches of snow (254 cm) in a year.  If you don't go out, you are isolated.

But if you have to go out, there are icy sidewalks to deal with.  We've all fallen on them.

I'm only in my mid 60's, and I am increasingly afraid of winter.  Now that my spouse has retired, I have someone to take me to work if the weather is bad.  But how many people live alone, or with spouses or partners who suffer physical or health issues?

Stepping On teaches strategies, with videos and discussions, of how to deal with various situations that result in balance challenges, and that is all good.

I refuse to accept that becoming fearful is a normal part of aging.  But falling seems to be all around me.  A co worker's father fell and hit his head last year. His injury may impact the rest of his life.

My spouse fell in October of 2017 and broke his nose, among other injuries.  He needed months of physical therapy.  He was lucky.

My mother in law, who passed away last November, fell a number of times, starting in her 60's.  Eventually, the cumulative injuries led to her loss of independence.

I think we all have stories - ourselves, loved ones, friends.

It shouldn't have to be like this, in your final years.

Experts tell us that fear of falling actually leads to an increased risk of falling.  It doesn't sound right, but it does make sense.  

Now, at times, I could wish for a third leg.  Seniors do have something like that available to them - it's called a cane.  But too many seniors shy away (we learned this in the falling classes) from using a cane, or even a walker, out of shame, or fear of being stared at.  Fear of knowing they are growing old factors into it, too. (And we were also taught that many seniors use a cane that isn't the right length.  How many of them are fitted for a cane? I wonder.)

So how do you deal with the fear?

It's great that our part of upstate New York has programs to help seniors with balance.  Falling has become a major concentration of the medical community here, as we have a high population of seniors in our area.  When I go to the doctor now, I am asked if I had fallen any since my last exam.  That question was never part of the normal pre-exam workup.

But, I feel, it won't do much good without touching on the psychological issues. What good is teaching balance if people have already developed the fear?  How about a class on dealing with that fear and learning to find ways to make it better?

Is there something like that in your community?  I wonder if fear education works.

Day three of the Ultimate Blog Challenge #blogboost

Wednesday, January 2, 2019

Flowers on Parade #WordlessWednesday #blogboost

We have a New Years Day tradition, here in the United States, that has happened for over 100 years.  It is called the Rose Parade.  

People will line up the night before and camp out just to watch this parade filled with floats, marching bands, and people on horseback.  Each year there is a theme.

What is special about this parade is that the decorated floats must be totally covered in natural materials: flowers, bark, spices, and so forth.

Here are a couple of examples of the beauty of this parade.

No, I wasn't there (Pasadena, California) but this parade is on my bucket list.  These pictures were taken off my TV screen.

Again, think of the hundreds of hours of work it takes to decorate one of these floats, and be amazed.

I'll show more of these pictures on Monday, along with my Music Moves Me weekly post.

Join Esha and other bloggers for #WordlessWednesday.

Day two of the Ultimate Blog Challenge #blogboost.

Tuesday, January 1, 2019

Conducting a Year Beginning Review

Welcome to the year 2019 and to another Ultimate Blog Challenge.


A year of caregiving for a 90 year old mother in law (who passed away on Black Friday) taught me a lot about all those things you put off, until you reach the day when you realize you have waited too long.

Learn from my mistakes.

How about conducting a year beginning review today?  My spouse and I are slowly doing this.

These suggestions are just from hard won experience - I am not a financial planner, a tax professional, or a legal professional, or anyone similar to these experts.  You may want to consult one or more such professionals to help you.

This is what I found and/or learned, and where I am as of today - still a long way to go.

1.  Do you have a will?  I do, but in consulting a lawyer during a free legal senior event last year, I found out it was sadly outdated.  Ditto for spouse.    ACTION NEEDED:  I need to get it updated.  And, oh yes, that person you named as executor?  Is that your current wish?  Does that person even know you've done it?

2  Health Care Proxy?  DNR (do not resuscitate) order (if desired)?  Anything similar available in your state?

The important thing is:  Does someone know your end of life wishes?  Does any document you have right now reflect your CURRENT wishes (watching what my mother in law experienced gave me some different insight into DNR, for whatever that is worth.).   Do you still want the person you named (if you have a health care proxy) making those life and death decisions for you?  My spouse was his mother's health care proxy and trust me, those decisions were heart-rending.
ACTION NEEDED:  I need to get my documents updated.  Much easier said than done, but necessary.

3.  Power of Attorney?  This is such an important document; I implore you to find out about it and discuss with your loved ones and a lawyer.  Enough said, as I am not a lawyer.

4.  Funeral arrangements:   yes, it's nothing that we want to think of.  But I look at everything we (and by "we", I mean my spouse and his siblings) went through with his mother, and shudder.  We knew the religion she followed but didn't know her funeral wishes.  By the time we realized the discussion was needed, she was retreating into dementia.  As for me, I'm an only child, so no siblings to discuss with.  Do I really want to burden my one child with these decisions? 

ACTION NEEDED:  preplan. Know how much it will cost and how I will pay for it.  Unless you've done it recently, you have no idea how many decisions you have to make.

My son has implored my spouse and I not to wait, but to do this planning now.  He's right.

5.  Are you paying for services you no longer need?  You may want to laugh, but I've kept a YMCA membership active for over four years - I used to go several times a week but stopped after a dental surgery I had in 2014 (it was complex, and it took me a while to recover - by then, I decided to stop that particular exercise program). But I never froze the membership.  As a senior, I can do that now, and not pay a monthly fee.  Why didn't I do that before?  ACTION NEEDED:  do that.


And then there was the device on our cell phone service that we haven't needed since May, when we needed a new car.  We called our provider and got it deactivated. today.

Cutting the cord?  We will have to think about that soon, now that my spouse has retired.

6.  What about your social media presence?  My mother in law was on Facebook.  Her account sits, although we do know her password (after she was hacked, another relative helped us reset it).  I am not sure what to do next, but this is going to be part of my year beginning review.

So, as for me:  I am on Facebook, Twitter (@RamblinGarden), and Pinterest. (Shameless self-promotion - see sidebar on right and follow me!)  What happens to these accounts if something happens to me?  ACTION NEEDED:  find these things out and do something about it.

7.  If you have an Apple product, does someone know your Apple ID and password? My mother in law's phone was on our plan (we paid for it and its monthly service, in fact).  Fortunately, my son had set these all up. When she developed dementia, we knew her password and apple ID and were able to help her use her phone. And now, the phone can go to another family member.

But without knowing this information, her phone would have been useless to anyone, to the best of my knowledge.  So, what about you? (I would be curious to know if anyone else has been through this process.)

So, to all my readers old and new, I hope you had a HAPPY NEW YEAR. 

Will you do a year beginning review, or something else, to mark the new year?

Day 1 of the Ultimate Blog Challenge #blogboost

Monday, December 31, 2018

New Year's Eve - #MusicMovesMe

It's Monday and time for another episode of Music Moves Me.  And it's also New Years Eve.

Who are the #MusicMovesMe bloggers? We are bloggers (and perhaps also musical elves) who blog about music each Monday and if you have music to share with us, you are most welcome to join! (Music Posts Only on this music train, please!)   First, there is XmasDolly,   Her co-conductors are:  ♥Callie of JAmerican Spice♥,  and ♥Stacy of Stacy Uncorked♥   Also, co-conducting  is  ♥Cathy from Curious as a Cathy♥ .  And finally, there's me. 
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This is a day of endings.  Guy Lombardo was a fixture of my youth, as he and his orchestra would ring out the old year.  This is an early recording of the song that would become the standard for ringing in the old, back then.

And, speaking of parties:

Parties. (Prince, 1999).

At a party Friday night, spouse and I became reacquainted with a man we hadn't  talked to in several years.  He is a 74 year old man (still working!) who is a drummer in a local band.  He and spouse talked about music of the 60's and 70's.  Soon enough, other people at our table joined into the discussion.

Music unites all of us as humans.  And the New Year is a day for new beginnings.  U2 and "New Year's Day".

The Byrd's Turn Turn Turn, and its biblical lyrics, sing of a season for everything, and everything in its time.  What time will 2019 reveal itself to be?

I wish all my readers and listeners, all over the world, Happy New Year.

Sunday, December 30, 2018

Civil War Sunday - Frederick Douglass

I firmly believe that if we don't remember the lessons of history, we are doomed to repeat the same mistakes that past generations did.

A man by the name of Frederick Douglass died on February 20, 1895.  Our country could use him today.  Hence, I repeat a post from February of 2017:

On February 1, 2017, someone in high office said something that seemed to imply that Douglass was still alive.  His descendants decided to turn that into a teachable moment. 

It is my pleasure to introduce you, my reader (knowing that some of you are not from the United States) to this most remarkable man who had many ties with my native New York State.

Frederick Douglass never knew his exact birth date.  He was born into slavery in Maryland sometime during February of 1818. His original name was Frederick Augustus Washington Bailey.  He barely knew his mother, whom he was separated from at an early age (not uncommon with slaves in that area) and was raised by his grandmother. His birth mother died when Douglass was 10.

At around the age of 12, the young Douglass was hired out to a man living in Baltimore, Hugh Auld, brother of Douglass's owner Thomas Auld. Hugh Auld and his wife were not experienced slave keepers, which may explain what happened next.

Hugh Auld's wife started to teach Douglass the alphabet.  I can not emphasize here the importance of this act - slaves were not permitted literacy, and in many places, teaching a slave to read or write was a crime.  Any slave, in turn, who was literate had to hide that fact or risk heavy punishment or even death.

Imagine that your love of reading must be kept secret, as you have no right to be literate.

Soon enough, Hugh Auld convinced his wife that teaching Douglass was a mistake.  But it was too late.  In secret, Douglass taught himself to read and write, using various resources, including a school primer owned by Hugh Auld's son, and the Bible.  Later, as a teenager, he was hired out to another man and started an underground slave school for the other neighborhood slaves.  He was caught and brutally punished by being hired out to a known "slave breaker".  Almost psychologically broken, he still managed to survive the experience.

Eventually, in 1838, Douglass was able to escape to the free state of Pennsylvania and then onward to free New York City.  He married (he and his first wife were together for 44 years) and they settled in Massachusetts, another free state.

Douglass eventually took the last name of "Douglass" from a poem, The Lady of the Lake, by Walter Scott.  While still living in Massachusetts, he joined the abolitionist movement - a movement to abolish slavery.  By the early 1840's, Douglass was traveling frequently and giving the most eloquent speeches many had ever heard.

Some people didn't even believe he had ever been a slave, so Douglass decided to write the first of several autobiographies to educate the public about his origins and early life story.  This book, Narrative of the Life of Frederick Douglass, An American Slave (published in 1845), is in the public domain here and in most countries.  If you look online, and it is legal, you will find PDFs of it on many websites.  It is about 108 pages.

Keep in mind that Douglass, at this point, is still an escaped slave.  It was quite possible his owner, Thomas Auld, could hire people to capture him and bring him back to slavery.  After all, he was Auld's property.  So, also in 1845, just as the Irish Potato Famine was starting, Douglass traveled to Ireland and Britain, and spent the next two years there.  There are several historical plaques in Britain and Ireland commemorating that visit.  More importantly, British supporters raised enough money  and Douglass was able to purchase his freedom from Thomas Auld.

Returning to the United States in 1845, he began his association with upstate New York, particularly the upstate New York cities of Seneca Falls and Rochester. If you are interested in learning more about Douglass, many of his other writings are online, free to read.

During the Civil War (1861-1865), three of Douglass's sons served in the military.  One became a First Sargent and anther a Sargent-Major.  The third was a recruiter. 

Douglass fought for many causes, including improving the lot of the nation's former slaves (they were all freed after the Civil War), education, and women's right to vote.  He used words, not violence, to advance the causes he believed in.  I must also point out that his beliefs were sometimes complicated, and contradictory.

Douglass believed in the young art of photography, and was the most photographed man, it is said, of the 19th century.

Politically, Douglass was the first African American to be nominated for Vice-President (he did not support this, and did not campaign) and the first African American man to receive a vote for President.

In addition to his work in the abolitionist movement, Douglass also did much work in the women's suffrage movement.  If you are a woman in the United States, you owe much to Frederick Douglass.

Here is another part of this amazing life story: In 1877, knowing his former owner Thomas Auld was dying, Frederick Douglass traveled to Auld's side and they reconciled.  I don't know if I could ever have done that if I had been a former slave.  Could you have?

Which brings me to these statues.

Douglass lived for about 25 years in Rochester, New York, also the home of suffragist Susan B. Anthony.  Near Anthony's home is a small park, and there, you will find this statue, called "Let's Have Tea".  Here, Anthony and Douglass's statues...well, they have tea.  A black former slave and a white school teacher having tea as equals?  That, in itself, would have been a revolutionary act.

Douglass died on February 20, 1895, in Washington, DC, shortly after visiting a meeting of the National Council of Women, and receiving the last standing ovation of his life.

Douglass is buried in Rochester, New York.  Here is his grave in Mt. Hope Cemetery.
Mural of the Douglass-Anthony Bridge, Trader Joes, Pittsford, New York
Also in Rochester is the Frederick Douglass-Susan B. Anthony Bridge.

Although our nation's leader may have incorrectly implied that Douglass was still alive, he was right in one respect.  The vision of Frederick Douglass is alive.  His courage in learning to read and escaping slavery still inspires us.  His supporting the rights of minorities and the rights of women continue to be carried forward by those who still believe in his vision. He taught that protest must always be peaceful, and that we must never give up when protesting for a just cause.

This year (2018) marks the 200th anniversary of Douglass's unknown birthday.

Come to think of it - yes, in a way, maybe Frederick Douglass is still alive - in all of us.

Saturday, December 29, 2018

Throwback Saturday - The Non Persistance of Vision

Back in 2015, I wrote several blog posts on what I had been learning in a falls prevention class.  As my regular readers know, I have fallen several times in the past few years.

Last night, my spouse and I went to the retirement party for my "guest photographer", a friend who has provided photos for my blogs from time to time.  One of her former co workers is legally blind, and is a client of a local organization called AVRE.

I am extremely nearsighted, and I learned about the importance of vision at an early age. I've been wearing glasses since I was four.  Since the age of around eight, my non corrected vision has been in the realm of what the State of New York considers legal blindness.  Fortunately (at least up to now), it has been correctable with glasses.

At one class I attended in 2015, we were treated to a talk by Diane McMillan of AVRE in Binghamton, New York.  Diane is dual-certified as a low vision therapist and a vision rehab therapist, and personally suffers from a couple of disabling eye diseases.  So, not only can she talk the talk, she also knows, from personal experience, what "it is like".  Hence, my information from 2015:

What is AVRE?
"AVRE is a private, non-profit organization that serves people with sustained and severe vision loss. People of all ages, from infants to seniors, can and do benefit from our services. We offer a range of learning. living, and working options for people with sustained and severe vision loss."

There are many eye diseases that can affect vision. Anyone suffering from these conditions becomes more prone to falling.  In fact, a blogger I enjoy, Amy Bovaird , has blogged at length about her life with a vision disability, her adventures (if I can call them that) in falling and how her life has strengthened her faith.  Amy's blog is Christian faith-centered but there are other bloggers with vision impairments who blog from a more secular viewpoint.

It turned out that a couple of people in my class suffer from macular degeneration.  Diane explained it so well, complete with pictures taken that show the way people with macular degeneration will see a particular picture vs. people with healthy eyes, that I understand it better now.  Amy Bovaird's blog has a lot of information about macular degeneration.

We also learned about glaucoma.

Diane's message was a message of hope.  She taught us (noting I am not a medical professional, or vision professional, and you should have annual eye exams, always):

1.  Be self aware.  Test yourself monthly (it only takes a couple of minutes) with something called an Amsler Grid.  Diane told us that you have any problems (the website describes what you are looking for when you use the grid) consider this an emergency and contact an eye care professional immediately.  In general, if anything is amiss, err on the side of caution and report it to your eye care professional immediately.  Sometimes, a timely exam can be the difference between a good outcome, and the opposite.  (Since 2015, a close family member learned about this through experience.)

2.  Have that annual eye exam!  The eye cancer someone I know made a full recovery from was detected on an annual eye exam.

3.  If you are diagnosed with an eye disease, all is not lost.  Some conditions can be treated.  Other conditions may not respond to treatment, but with proper training, and assistance, you can still lead a worthwhile life.  The two women in my class with macular degeneration were proof of that.

#3, especially, resonated with me, because I have always dreaded the day the eye doctor will say "we no longer have a prescription for you."  I hope that day never comes.

Going into the New Year, please protect your vision!

Friday, December 28, 2018

Mild #SkywatchFriday

Friday, December 21 at noontime in downtown Binghamton, New York.  Fall was giving way to winter.  It was mild.

I left my office building and was amazed at the cloud show that awaited me as I walked towards a historic office building to listen to some caroling.

Broome County Courthouse, silhouetted against the sky.

A slightly different angle.
To the left, the old city hall.  I used to work, many many years ago, in the red and white brick building directly to its right.  I don't know what is in there now.

And that evening, after taking a short after-work walk...the sunset.

What a way to start winter.  Now that it's winter, it's raining.  Go figure.

Join Yogi and the other bloggers who watch the sky each Friday on #SkywatchFriday.

Happy New Year (almost) to my fellow sky watchers.

Thursday, December 27, 2018

Sixteen Sycamores - #ThursdayTreeLove

Even in the largest city in the United States, you can find and enjoy trees.

In a Brookyn (part of New York City) neighborhood called Boerum Hill, adjoining downtown Brooklyn, we found this small oasis on Schermerhorn St. between Nevins St. and 3 Ave while walking to the subway on Christmas Eve.

It was called "Sixteen Sycamores"

Sycamores, also known as plane trees, are a tree native to the New York City area, identifiable by the white and brown patchy bark.

Don't ever let anyone tell you that New York City is only a city of skyscrapers.  Yes, there are plenty of those, but you can find the most delightful things if you keep your eyes on where you walk.

This is the final Tree Love post of the year and I am so happy to end this with pictures taken in New York City, the city of my birth.

Join Parul and other bloggers on the second and fourth Thursday of the year for #ThursdayTreeLove.

Wednesday, December 26, 2018

Traditions End Traditions Begin

House decorated for Christmas, December 2014, Yonkers, NY
For several years, I spent every Christmas in Yonkers, New York, with some of my husband's family.  Now, my mother in law is gone, and the woman who hosted this dinner can not do so this year.  We wouldn't have been able to come, anyway.  This year, neither of us had the heart to do anything related to Christmas.

Yet, I do have some precious memories of the years when, after dinner, my spouse, sister in law and I would walk to Cross County Shopping Center.

In Yonkers, New York, there is an outdoor shopping center. Both my spouse and I shopped there (well, our parents did - we were just along for the ride) when we were small.

Back in the early 1960's this outdoor mall, the first in Westchester County, New York, contained large and small stores, a play area, and even a hospital.

It was called Cross County Center then, and Cross County Shopping Center now.  It opened in 1954 and is still going strong, unlike many other malls of the era. 

My parents would take two buses from our apartment in the Bronx (the northern borough of New York City, which borders Yonkers) to Cross County just to shop there.  I loved those outings.

Several years ago, I was chatting with a co worker where I work in Binghamton, in upstate New York.  I don't remember how we got on the topic of our childhoods, but I discovered that she had been born in the Cross County Hospital, and spent her early childhood in Yonkers, before moving away, eventually to Binghamton.

Small world.

Then, when I shared the fact that I had Christmas dinner every year in walking distance of that same shopping center, she asked me a favor: would I take a picture of the hospital for her?

I had to break the news to her that the hospital had closed in the 1980's.  The good news was, the building was still there.  I told her I would do my best to get a picture.

So, in 2014, after Christmas dinner, my spouse, my son and I walked to Cross County.

Red and white building on the right, once a hospital, was being renovated into a hotel
 I took the picture she asked for.

Can you imagine, one day visiting the city of your birth and staying in the building where you were born in?  In a small way, I envy her.

My mother in law's passing on Black Friday, in a way, has made us realize how much of an anchor she was in our lives.  For us, we have to discard some old traditions now, but we know new ones will replace them.  Perhaps what we did this year (which I may blog about in January) will start new holiday traditions - and, in some ways, change is good.

We'll hope.

Tuesday, December 25, 2018

Throwback for Christmas - A Christmas Carol

Classics are classics because they are timeless. Today's throwback post (except for the picture, which is from last week) is one from 2016.

No matter what your nationality or religion, a story written over 100 years ago still teaches us eternal truths.

"A Christmas Carol in Prose, Being a Ghost-Story of Christmas" by the British author Charles Dickens, was published on December 19, 1843.  It had an autobiographical element but also combines various Christmas legends and traditions.

If you call a miserly person "Scrooge", or declare "Bah, humbug!" you are channeling Ebenezer Scrooge, the main character in this story.  The character of Tiny Tim, a minor character in the novella, lives on in our collective memories. 

In the story, Scrooge, a successful businessman lacking the most basic emotions of humanity such as love or kindness is visited by his dead business partner, Jacob Marley. Marley's ghost has a warning for his former partner - the ghost, who was a lot like Scrooge while alive, has been walking the Earth these past seven years, unable to atone for his sins.  It is too late for Marley but it isn't too late for Scrooge.  Scrooge, said Marley's ghost, would be visited by several ghosts and given his last chance to develop the best in human qualities.

Three ghosts follow Marley's ghost - the Ghosts of Christmas Past, Christmas Present and Christmas Yet to Come, to instruct Scrooge.

At the end of the experience, Scrooge is a changed man.

Here is a quote from the book:

“No space of regret can make amends for one life's opportunity misused”

The book, more commonly known as "A Christmas Carol",  was an immediate success, and has never been out of print.


In these times we are entering, the story of A Christmas Carol is more important than it has been in years.  As Dickens said, so many years ago:

“They are Man's and they cling to me, appealing from their fathers. This boy is Ignorance and this girl is Want. Beware them both, and all of their degree, but most of all beware this boy for on his brow I see that written which is Doom, unless the writing be erased.” Some things about our world never change.
 
But, perhaps, like in the story, there is hope. Scrooge changed for good, and did not return to his old ways.  Rather, the book ended like this:

“And it was always said of him, that he knew how to keep Christmas well, if any man alive possessed the knowledge. May that be truly said of us, and all of us! And so, as Tiny Tim observed, God bless Us, Every One!”

May the chaotic times we are living in now resolve themselves - in the best of ways.

Monday, December 24, 2018

Christmas Eve #MusicMovesMe

Welcome! It's Monday and time for another episode of Music Moves Me.  And it's also Christmas Eve, so of course this post will be all Christmas music.

Who are the #MusicMovesMe bloggers? We are bloggers (and perhaps also musical elves) who blog about music each Monday and if you have music to share with us, you are most welcome to join! (Music Posts Only on this music train, please!)   First, there is XmasDolly,   Her co-conductors are:  ♥Callie of JAmerican Spice♥,  and ♥Stacy of Stacy Uncorked♥   Also, co-conducting  is  ♥Cathy from Curious as a Cathy♥ .  And finally, there's me. 

To set the mood, a clip of a childhood memory from my growing up in New York City in the 50's and 60's:  the WPIX YuleLog. (and no, you don't have to listen to all two hours).  On Christmas Eve, WPIX (then an independent station on channel 11) would preempt programming and bring you a clip of a log burning at the Mayor's residence (Gracie Mansion) with Christmas carols playing in the background. Enjoy!

I love a group called Trans-Siberian Orchestra, and would like to bring you some of their music for this Christmas Eve.

The Lost Christmas Eve, from the album (their fourth) of the same name.

Christmas Eve/Sarajevo, the song that introduced me to this group.

And finally, first, a warning that if you suffer from seizures, you might not want to watch this next video. 


Although it doesn't mention Christmas Eve, this song has been used so many times by people who set their house Christmas decorations to music, that I couldn't resist one of those videos.

My final selection is  "What Child is This", possibly my favorite of all their songs.  The power of this song is amazing.

To all my Christian readers, may you all have the happiest of Christmases, one full of happiness - and music.